I have a cute story that came out of one of my classes about a woman in her 50s, and she was a very, very conservative looking woman. Not one stitch of makeup. Well after this class, she was so motivated, that she went home, and while her husband was sleeping, and this was about midnight, she wrote, in deep red lipstick, across the mirror, you Tarzan, me Jane, let's swing tonight. Then she went to bed. The next morning, she was pretending to be asleep. And she said, he got up, and he started shaving, in front of the mirror. She said that this message, was not written, in a little tiny corner. It was written across the entire mirror. And there was absolutely no expression on his face. He was just shaving, stone cold, as if she had written nothing. And she thought, son of a gun, he's not reacting, to this. Anyway, she said, he left for work, and he didn't say anything to her. Well, then, about three hours later, the phone rings, and he says, I can't stand it one more minute. Did you really mean what you wrote on that mirror? I can't concentrate on work at all. And that was the first time, in their entire marriage, that he came home at 12 o'clock, in the afternoon, and stayed home, the rest of the day, as they made love.

I remember one man raising his hand and saying, my wife is a sex maniac. I can't even get in the front door, and she wants to make love straight away. I don't have the sex drive that she does. Another man raised his hand and said, can I have her phone number, please. So the fact is that what one person perceives as a fault, the other one looks at as a virtue. And it's very subjective.

It doesn't matter what relationship coaching or training program you go through, they mostly on their own will not rectify a majority of relationship challenges.

Couples will not follow through on the assignments provided in a training program if any of the above exists.

On the other hand, therapy on its own is insufficient as you go home feeling better yet then twiddle your thumbs, asking....what do I do now?

The absolute best thing you can do is go through a system that provides training that gives you the tools to make your relationship better and therapy where you are emotionally, mentally, physically, and spiritually free to use the tools properly.